It wasn’t long after my 20th birthday that my 6-year-old nephew looked at me and asked, “Aren’t you suppose to be married by now?”
Of course my reaction involved much laughter and a witty reply. Sadly, however, I can’t count the number of times I have experienced similar comments and questions from those my age and older.
Young, single, Christian women are being faced with a skewed image of what being a woman truly means. The world tells us that unless you have a man by your side, and kids running around by age 20’s and especially 30’s, you are most likely either a disaster in relationships, or even a homosexual.
From experience, I know this image can be devastating to one’s self-confidence, sense of worth, and understanding of one’s purpose. Such an image can destroy one’s hope in the future and unsettle one’s peace of mind.
With these things in mind, I pose this question, “What does GOD think about single women?” After all, isn’t His opinion the only one that truly matters?
God teaches us what a single woman can accomplish through His servant, Lydia. Found in Acts 16:13-15, 40, Lydia is thought to be a single woman who actively served God’s kingdom in many ways. Not only was she a member of a prayer group that met often by the river, as well as a great encourager of the church who met in her own home, but she was a prominent business woman.
Lydia was a seller of purple. At that time, purple was the most expensive material because of the challenge one had to encounter to find purple dye. As selling purple was her main source of income, Lydia was an intuitive, motivated, and successful entrepreneur.
Women today are fully capable of being successful, like Lydia. But even more importantly, women today are capable of being spiritual giants in the Church, like Lydia.
As single women of any age, we are capable of serving the church and pursuing lost souls in ways that a married woman may not have the opportunity for. For example, a married woman with children may be called to serve those in her community only, so as not to tear her away from her family.
A single woman however, may serve multiple cities, states, and countries given that she is not bound to serve her husband or children.
God makes such responsibilities clear in 1 Corinthians 7. Here, through Paul, God suggests that married women have a gift of serving their husbands and families, whereas single women have the gift of undividedly serving God’s kingdom.
In God’s eyes, every woman, whether married or single, is called to seek and save the lost (Matthew 28:19), as well as to maintain a quiet and gentle spirit (1 Peter 3:4).
If you are approaching the age of marriage, but find yourself completely single, God has a plan for you, and His plan will stand (Proverbs 19:21). He may use you in ways that you could not be used if you were to marry. Be confident in your purpose.
God has a vital use for both married couples and those who are single by choice or circumstance. Do not let the world fool you into thinking otherwise.
Step up to your role in this life and be a Woman.