"You are a wonderful, worthy and lovable person. Appreciate that about yourself. No one has ever been, or ever will be, quite like you. You are an individual, an original, and all those things that make you uniquely you are deserving of love and praise." -Peter A. Wiliams
So many girls today have had their self worth and self-confidence diminished and tarnished by the world and the people who live for this world. We are told to accentuate our assets, dress to impress, have small pores, and a clear complexion. We are told that a size two is perfection, and our bra size must be at least at a C cup or larger. We spend time, energy, and money to get our looks just right but all in all, we still feel like that ugly and awkward child striving to find self-esteem in things. We have all heard over and over again that true beauty starts within, but somehow, we do not believe this to be so. I believe that we do this to ourselves because the self-confidence that we should have has been tucked away beneath the make-up, our wardrobe, and even tucked away by our own delusions of confidence. Where is our self-esteem, and how can we lay hold of it?
Reading about self-esteem, and going through the steps to obtain it, will not happen in our lives unless we are encouraging one another and meeting one another’s needs. Self-esteem is an asset that can given to us by others, and to grasp that self-esteem, we must be willing to accept the encouragement that comes our way. Don’t get me wrong, we must not rely on others to make us feel good, but we should accept the compliments that they send our way and believe in the compliments. As a young girl, I waitressed at our family’s restaurant for years during my childhood and teen years. I always had a customer who would call me beautiful. I would shrug him off and tell him he was crazy. One day, he got fed up with my passiveness to his compliment and he said, “Ashley, you will never ever feel beautiful if you do not accept that others see you in this way. That God sees you in this way. It breaks my heart when I tell you your beautiful, and you tell me I’m wrong. You gotta learn how to gracefully say thank you, and believe in yourself.” This small conversation has forever impacted me and the way I see myself. When others compliment me, I believe them, and thus, I have improved my self worth in a way that truly makes me accept the beauty God has placed within me.
As you all struggle through this time of finding who you are and finding your self-worth, just remember, what others see in you, and what you see in others needs to be heard. We are told to “build one another up in love, and encourage one another daily.” Through this, we will begin to obtain self worth, and help others obtain it too. The barriers to true beauty will be broken, and we all will be able to feel this strength and beauty that God has placed within each and every one of us.
I know it is easy to see the beauty in others, but as we begin to receive the compliments by fellow Christians, and the compliments God has placed in His word just for you and believe them, we will see the beauty in ourselves as well.
“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
Now doesn’t that make you feel beautiful?