So there’s this guy. He’s cute, obviously and kind of funny…and totally wrong for you. He’s not interested in the same type of music or movies, he hangs out with a different type of people, and not interested in attending church. So why does he keep looking your way and flashing that irresistible smile? And, more importantly, why are you interested in him? Everyone knows you’re the smart, sensible, God-loving girl.
So you start dating and you really like him. He’s exciting and you always have fun when you’re together. Maybe you don’t always agree with some of the things he does, but he can change…right? You’re not the first girl to think this; in fact, many “good girls” throughout time have believed this before. You love him and he loves you so he’ll learn to change his ways and dedicate his life to following God and you guys can get married one day. He may very well decide to change, but more often than not, you’ll end up changing for him before you even realize what happened.
This can happen in dating relationships, friendships, or even within families. When Christians develop close ties with non-Christians, often (but not in every case) the Christians seem to lose sight of what is good and important. In 1 Corinthians, Paul stated, “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals…for some have no knowledge of God.” (15:33-34) Paul encourages Christians who do have knowledge of God to not forget their calling to spread God’s word (Mat. 28:19-20) and to “be holy.” (1 Pet. 1:16
Christians must interact with non-Christians in order to fulfill God’s will but must be careful not to change themselves in the process. Christians aren’t perfect, and any true Christian would admit that. However, surrounding yourself with other Christians who are also trying to do the right things can help make it easier. Peter instructs Christians to “have unity of mind,” (1 Pet. 3:8) and in Psalms it states, “Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!” (133:1) Developing strong ties with other Christians is what God wants for his children and can only make you stronger spiritually.
As a teenage girl, you’re always looking for Mr. Right and maybe you pray for him to show up. Sometimes you think he’ll never come so maybe you take things into your own hands and end up dating the wrong guy(s). Isn’t it funny how when we do things our way they don’t always turn out how we planned? In Proverbs it says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” (3:5-6) Isn’t that a comforting thought?
Know that God loves you and has a plan for your life. In 2 Chronicles we learn, “For he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever.” () You should be “casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” (1 Pet. 5:7) God loves you and will take care of you. There are guys out there, believe it or not, who love God just as much as you do. Know that focusing your life on God’s word and earnestly seeking His will can lead you to the happiness you’re searching for.