We all know the world’s perspective of what a REAL man is: the large muscles, the confidence, the courage and bravery, the large muscles, the cool guy, the tough guy, and he doesn’t back down from anyone or thing. (Did I mention the large muscles?) Even as girls, you definitely see the manly men stereotype we’ve had for thousands of years. We as humans naturally view manly men as protective, fearless, winners, THE BEST. The most popular guy at school is often the athlete that seems to be good at everything. However, often times worldly men are arrogant, boastful, prideful, etc. These are not qualities God wants his Christian men to possess. You ladies know that we are supposed to be men, but being the right kind of man is something you may not realize causes a lot of inner struggles in our spiritual lives.
To look at what the Christian man should possess, let’s go to the Bible, the source of all our instruction. Proverbs is an AWESOME book; if you haven’t ever explored through its advice, you should. If I were to highlight the verses important to me, I would have one big yellow section in my Bible because each thought brings with it much wisdom. It’s one of my favorites, and it has much to say about not only worldly pride, but also humility. Prov. 11:2 says, “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” Then in 29:23, “One’s pride will bring him low, but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor.” These are only two examples, but I’m already seeing a consistent theme here: humility. Humility is something that goes against everything the world tells us, and that’s why it makes it so hard live it! The world says that we need to make ourselves known in everything we do, and we have to work our way up to the top. In their eyes that can only be achieved by being proud of what you have done and letting others know. In their opinion, it’s all about YOU! So who’s right? The world or Solomon (the wisest man who ever lived)?
Well, I want you to go read Philippians 2:1-11. Okay! Now that you have read those AMAZING words from Paul, I think you know the answer to my question. God calls us to “make ourselves nothing” and to become servants. That isn’t easy whenever you are in a place where all you hear goes against God’s Word. The last time I checked, there weren’t many Godly, loving men in our world. I believe this has to do in large part to the fact that our society rewards selfish gain, not humility.
So I know you’re thinking to yourself, “Dylan, how is this supposed to help me? I’m a girl, I don’t want to have big muscles anyways!” Or something like that. But I’m almost there! Even as Christians, we men are supposed to be the leaders of the family, the head of the household. We take pride in the leadership role, as it is very important (just as a woman’s role). We do deserve respect and need your companionship as women, your cooperation, and your support. On TV you see men that are pushed around a lot by their wives, dragging their lazy selves to hang out with their buds and watch the big game. That is NOT how a Christian man needs to live his life. When you are searching for a man to have in your life as your husband and spiritual partner, look for men that take pride in their role as a man, and give him your love and respect. Search the guy that has a CRAZY love for Christ, that each day challenges you to improve your walk with God. When you do your part and sharpen him (Prov. 27:17), you will help each other become better Christians, accomplishing things for God that you never thought possible. So as you figure out the type of person you want to date and eventually marry, look for a man who shows Jesus Christ in his life each and every day. Jesus was the toughest man I have ever known, and whoever lives for Him is the toughest he could ever be.