For as long as I can remember I have always been obsessed with fairy tales. When I first started watching ABC’s “Once Upon a Time”, I was hooked! The show follows a lady named Emma who finds herself in the fictional town of Storybrooke, Maine. She soon realized that every person who lives in that town is straight out of a fairy tale story- she is living the fairy tale dream! So, like a little girl again, I started reliving all those fairy tales and got all those warm fuzzy, romantic feelings. Of course this show is very obviously fictional. I think girls who love fairy tales know that. But, sometimes girls can fantasize and dream up such high expectations about what their life SHOULD be like that they are let down when real life hits. It’s not wrong to daydream, but we need to make sure we remember what is fictional and what is real. Here are some examples:
Witches aren’t the only ones with warts.
I am sure we all look in the mirror and see things we don’t particularly like about our bodies. We watch movies, read books and see magazines that tell us what we SHOULD look like. Evil people are supposed to be the ones with the physical flaws, right? It is so sad to see the world desensitizing people’s minds into thinking that they should have an unrealistic, flawless body. Of course the magazines never mention that the women who are covering their pages have been worked over by makeup artists and are photo shopped. Girls need to quit comparing their features to fake supermodels and princesses and remember that God formed them exactly how He wanted them (Ps. 139:13). It is so special when you think of it that way!
The Damsel in Distress attitude is not romantic.
The poor, beautiful maiden in distress seems so romantic. All the men around her seem to want to be her hero and rescue the sad girl. That is what the books seem to tell us at least. But in real life, having the “woe is me” mentality really isn’t all that attractive or biblical. The Bible clearly says Christians SHOULD be HAPPY (Ps. 146:5, John 16:33). Sadly, I have seen some girls who try to use this “damsel in distress” attitude to get attention from guys. They want a “hero” to feel sorry for them and come to their rescue. Acting sad all the time can lose friendships, and it is not showing the joy that Christians should have. As Christians, we have more to be happy than sad about. Remember, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones” (Prov. 17:22). You will ALWAYS look more beautiful with a smile on!
Your Prince Charming will have flaws.
If you figure out BEFORE you find your Prince Charming that he will NOT be perfect, your life will be much better. We are all human, we all have flaws (Rom. 3:23). I believe my husband is as close to perfect as they come, but even he makes mistakes. None of us are perfect. If you want your future prince to accept you as you are, mistakes and all, then do the same for him. You cannot hold your future husband to a standard that he will never be able to reach. Fairy Tales and fictional romance novels can give us an unrealistic picture of what men should be like. Remember that if your prince is a good godly man, he will strive to be as close to perfect as he can. Make his job easier on him and do not compare him to fictional, unrealistic characters. And honestly, who wants a man who constantly sings and wears tights anyways?
Instead of day dreaming about an unrealistic life, start day dreaming about how GREAT heaven will be. Someday we will live with God forever. Everything will be fairy tale perfect! But, to get there, we have to live in the real world with its real problems. It is not always easy, but if you live the way God says and do not set unrealistic expectations, our life on this earth can be better than our fairy tale dreams. Someday, all of God’s people will live happily ever after!