First saw this trend of “an accent fingernail” on Pinterest, in one of my rare trips to that time-sucking site. I think I was in search of ideas for an organized playroom. I got lots of ideas for things to buy and build, but none on ways to make a playroom function so that playing can take place.
And this idea of painting one’s ring finger nail a different color than the others.
Sure enough, within the next few weeks, I noticed girls and young ladies sporting an accent nail.
I have one question: Why?
Perhaps it’s because I myself am bombarded with this question daily, as the mother of preschoolers.
A sampling: Why do you wear make-up? Why are you wearing a scarf? What is that thing you’re sliding down your hair? (Explanation followed by: Why?)
The answer to all these questions is pretty much the same: “to look pretty.” There are current worldly standards of what is pretty, and we girls and ladies like to adhere to those.
Sometimes, when I’m drawn to trendy pieces in a store, or find myself lamenting my dated wardrobe, I remember Romans 12:2: “Do not be conformed to this word, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may determine what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
The world says an “accent fingernail” is cool. Who cares? The world says scarves are a must for every outfit. So what? The world says shorts only need to cover one’s cheeks—and that’s negotiable. Why?
You know the “why” questions I like to answer? The ones that set me apart as “holy and acceptable to God” (Romans 12:1).
Wouldn’t it be great if people asked you why you don’t do things like everyone else, or why you do things differently from them? Then you could explain the reasons for your transformation. You could give “a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason or the hope that is within you, [with] gentleness and respect” (1 Peter 3:15).
People should notice our difference: We’re supposed to be lights in a dark world, salt in a bland earth.
But notice that kicker: we should always show gentleness and respect for people aren’t quite there yet.
That means you don’t tell someone sporting an accent nail that you think that’s dumb. Or that if someone asks why you’re wearing a purity ring, you don’t say that sex before marriage is stupid.
If our love for God and man is genuine, this part should come naturally. If we find it difficult not to roll our eyes or judge unbelievers, we probably need a heart check.
Today, see if you can find one way to stand out: to not let yourself be conformed to the world’s standards, but to instead focus your heart, soul, mind and strength on loving God. Stay connected to Him through prayer and His Word: that’s the “renewal of your mind” that Romans 12:2 means. When you’re mentally focused on God, not the world, your transformation begins.
Then maybe you’ll get some opportunities to explain why you’re different. Let’s question what the world says, and let them question us.