It was her wedding day at last! She was nervous, but so excited, as she slipped on her beautiful white wedding gown. She wore her dress with pride, knowing that she deserved to wear this color of purity. She thanked God that, with His help, she would be able to give her husband the best gift she could on their wedding night: her virginity. But deep down she still had some regret. She knew she had saved her virginity for her new husband, but she wished she had saved more. She did not want to have to explain to him the “almost-went-too-far” nights she had had with other boys. She wished she did not have to be nervous about which ex she would run into at the mall or at worship services. She wished that seeing them would not bring back the hurtful, embarrassing memories. She wished she had completely saved her heart and body for her one true love!
This, sadly, is the story for too many young women! So many girls are told that “as long as he is a good boy”, “as long as you stay pure”, “as long as you get home at a decent hour” they can date whoever they want. So, they do! Some girls date just a few boys; some girls date as many as they can find. But no matter how few or how many, each girl gives a piece of her heart away as they participate in this “harmless” activity. With each break up a new scar appears. With each break up there is new regret.
Since God made girls emotional beings, we love the thought of being in love! At some time or another, most girls have pictured themselves married to whomever they are dating at the time. In “Pride and Prejudice”, Jane Austen correctly notes: “A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony, in a moment” (Chapter 6). This is so true! But if you are not dating who you will end up marrying someday, this is a very bad mistake and not fair to your future husbands! Girls usually find out too late that the boy that they are in a relationship with is not the one that they want to spend the rest of their lives with and are not in love with. Kisses and so much more that they should have been saving for their husband have all been wasted.
1 Timothy 5:1-3 tells us how we should treat different people in our life: “Do not sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appeal to him as a father, to the younger men as brothers, the older women as mothers, and the younger women as sisters, in all purity.” God wants us to treat the young men in our life as “brothers” and “in all PURITY”. Is messing with someone’s heart and giving kisses away freely treating him as a brother in all purity? God gave us these rules for a reason and if we follow them, we can remain pure of heart. God’s plan for us was not to give away anything that belongs to our future husbands to another boy. God wants us to save our entire self, physically and emotionally, for our husbands!
Psalm 22:11 says, “He who loves purity of heart and has grace on his lips, the king will be his friend”. God wants us as Christian girls to not only be pure sexually, but pure in heart! Follow His will and you can know that you will truly be able to give your future husband everything!