“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” The origin of this common saying dates all the way back to the 3rd century B.C. in ancient Greek. You have probably heard it, or something similar, before but have you ever considered its meaning on a deeper level? Beauty consists of many things, all of which are relative to the so-called “beholder.” Society dictates the majority of what people consider beautiful, but why do we, as Christians, have to agree with the societal standards of beauty? The truth is that we don’t!
As young Christian women, we of course want our inner beauty to shine through and model the love of Christ. We also want to find a Christian husband who sees us as beautiful, inside and out. We shouldn’t have to conform to societal views of beauty when there is a Christian man, and more importantly God, who will appreciate and love us for who we are. Of course, life isn’t perfect and we aren’t perfect. We know that. We have been conditioned to accept it. That doesn’t mean true love between a Christian man and woman can’t exist.
Let’s go back to a time when you played with dolls and dreamed that “someday your prince would come” to rescue you and you’d ride away into the sunset on a shining white horse and that you’d live happily ever after. The prince would be kind, understanding, affectionate, intelligent, handsome, and love you just the way you were. In other words, the prince would be perfect for you and you for him.
Often reality tears this wonderful fairytale to pieces, and for good reason. As we grew up, and learned the world wasn’t as wonderful a place as we had once believed, we may have given up on this fairytale love. Certain experiences in our pasts with family, friends, and boyfriends may have altered our view of “happily ever after.” Much of the world around us insists there is no happily ever after and that true love doesn’t exist. While there may not be an absolute happily ever after, I firmly believe that true love does exist. True love exists, but it does take work to sustain. Much of the world knows nothing of true love because they know nothing of Christ’s love. (Rom. 5:8Eph. 3:19Eph. 5:2Gal. 2:20
As young Christian women, we should wait for our “prince” who will find us beautiful inside and out and rely on God for our instruction. And we need to make sure we are beautiful inside and out by keeping God as the center of our lives and by not being fooled by temptations within the world. We are called to be a “chosen race” (1 Pet. 2:9) and to “not love the world or the things in the world.” (1 John 2:15) Your knight in shining armor may be out there somewhere, but remember that he will have his faults just as you have yours. You can live happily together, but you have to work for happily ever after. This is an important lesson that many young women have had to learn, including me. It is not wrong to love the happily ever after stories, it’s just unrealistic to expect life to be as perfect as they often seem.